My name is Lora Liegel and I live in the Seattle area with my wife Michelle. My wife gave birth to our son and I have no genetic connection to him. I thought being married would be enough to protect my parental rights, but I was wrong. Even though same-sex marriage became legal in 2015, parentage is still determined by each state. If I ever moved or traveled, my parental rights could be in jeopardy. In order to give myself and my family another layer of security, I completed the second parent adoption process in 2017 - which cost money, time, and gave me a lot to think about. 

The LGBTQ+ community has made progress toward equality on many fronts, but our current legal system proves that there is still a long way to go. 

 

Sing to me child
and I promise you
I'll play and dance
with a heart that's wild
for all your days to come

 

There are books and blogs about gay parenting, lesbian moms, how to get pregnant, and beyond. But where are the perspectives and stories from the 'other mothers,' the 'second parents?' Where do we go from here?

 

It used to just be me
Down mountains and by the sea
Time passed, seeds became trees

Now you have my heart so full
I'll love all the days from here and on
Because a me gave way for three